(i) Feelings are who we are. If there is one true indication of manhood it is our feelings. If we suppress our feelings, we also suppress our manhood. On top of that if we pretend to have feelings that are not really there, the resultant manhood that we show becomes more of a fake. The fake can never be real.
(ii) The Christian West has been following fake manhood for centuries now. The Manhood ideals that the western society has grown up on are not real, in fact they're downright 'unmanly'.
(iii) It is utterly 'queer' to follow with closed eyes whatever rules the society has prescribed for manhood (and this goes especially for the west, since there, the society has really fucked up the real manhood), even if these criteria have been around for centuries and based upon religion. True men have the intelligence to question these arbitrarily fixed 'manhood' rules and the courage to defy them.
Most of the things that the Western society has deemed feminine are actually the essence of manhood, and at the sametime, Almost all of the things that the Western(ised) society today deems as "manly" are actually the essence of "third sex" (queerhood!).
(iv) It is o.k. if some feelings are suppressed just a wee bit, and that may do good for one's manhood, but if you take it to extremes, especially like in the West, then it is like killing the very essence of manhood. The westernised societies may hounour such hollow men as "real men", but in reality they're just that -- hollow, fake puppets who then become vulnerable to be exploited by women.
(v) What we should really suppress are the negative feelings that harm us and others -- but rather than suppressing them, its better to channelise them in a way that negates or reduces this harm.
(vi) It is possible that when we bring out our feelings, some of them may be feelings of femininity (not because the society says so, but because they're actually/ naturally so). The real man doesn't run away from them. A little femininity does wonders to enhance one's manhood.
It is also possible, that the male has a lot of naturally feminine feelings in them. Even in that case, the person should accept himself proudly as a feminine male. Because it is as healthy as manhood. Just different. What is important is to be yourself -- something a society like the west, that has been messed up for centuries -- first by christiatnity and then by science, has made very difficult to do.
(vii) Learn to question that's the most important.
It is not by hiding our feelings that we can become real men, but only by bringing them out and acting upon all the healthy, positive feelings.
So the Moral of the story:
Don't be afraid of your feelings. Your real manhood is lying somewhere in the feelings that you've suppressed at the deepest levels of your soul. Dig them out and bring them to the fore. Do you have the courage to do that. Only then can you be a real man.
NATURE KNOWS THE BEST. More than religion and science.